How to Find Your Spiritual Path

“I have spoke with the tongue of angels
I have held the hand of a devil
It was warm in the night
I was cold as a stone.
But I still haven’t found
What I’m looking for.” -U2

Finding your spiritual path can be a rough road. Some people are lucky to fall right into it, but a lot of us spend a good chunk of our lives fumbling around in the dark. It’s an ongoing process, and the answer is usually right in front of our faces. That’s because it comes from inside us.

This post uses the idea that spirituality is the existence of something bigger than us. As an action, it’s navigating our relationship with it and the world around us. Some people find it in religion. Some people find it in humanity as a whole. Some find it in art, in music, in writing.

It’s okay if you don’t agree with that definition. This post is still relevant! Here are some tips I’ve learned spending years of my own life fumbling around in that dark.



 Paced Breathing

Humor me here and take a deep breath. Hold it. Now slowly breathe out. You can use the image above to help.

There is no rush in finding your spiritual path. You have time. In fact, you’ve already found it since it lives within you. You just need to get to know it a little better.

One of the biggest mistakes I see is people working themselves into a frenzy because they feel like they need all the answers now. That’s understandable. I’ve totally been there. The problem is this induces a panicked mindset, and panic is an awful way to try and solve or feel anything.

So just breathe. Give yourself time and space to take things slowly. Move at your own natural pace.


Look to the Past


Sometimes you have to look to the past to know the present.

When I was 13, I stumbled across a (painfully 90s) website talking about something called “reincarnation”. I wasn’t surprised by the idea. But I was blown away that it’s a belief and not a fact. I had assumed souls get recycled. It’s what made logical and emotional sense to wee little 13-year-old me. I had forgotten about that until, one day, I started writing down my beliefs and trying to figure out where they came from.

Reanalyzing your beliefs can give you great clues towards finding your spiritual path. It also lets you see any old beliefs that stopped working for you. Those can go.

Here are some questions to get you started:

* What were you surprised to learn others didn’t believe or experience?
* What interested you the most when you were a kid?
* What stories have stuck with you over the years? (Songs and artwork count!)* What do you feel drawn to?
* What never sat right with you?

For example, as a kid I liked to write stories about angels and loved to swim. My copy of the picture book “Seven Blind Mice” by Ed Young is in tatters. I’m very drawn to animals and rocks, and always have been. I had heard of the idea of original sin, but it never felt right to me.

Today my spirit work leans heavily towards angels. A lot of the healing work I do involves Ocean and water. The storybook is actually a retelling of the Blind Men and the Elephant. It teaches perspective and that there are many facets to the Universe we can’t see all at once – something I believe in. I work with animal medicine and healing crystals. I also learned that I wouldn’t find my spiritual path with Christianity.

That doesn’t encompass my whole spiritual path, but it’s certainly a good starting point!

Imagine the Future


I’m going to ask some hard questions: why do you care about spirituality? Why are you even reading this post? What, exactly, do you hope to get out of all this effort?

Spirituality isn’t selfless. At its core, it’s all about connection. And you can’t connect with anything if you don’t exist. You can’t find depth, and beauty, and a sense of wonder unless you want those things enough to open your eyes and seek them out.

I want you to imagine the future. You have an inner sense of calm and feel like you’re part of a larger whole. You engage in activities that make you feel fulfilled. You have an idea of who you are and what direction you’re heading.

Now, what did you see?

Maybe you saw yourself in a group setting practicing meditation. Or maybe you saw yourself alone in a beautiful retreat within your home doing yoga. Maybe you saw yourself reaching out to your community and volunteering. Or, if you’re like me, maybe you finally got that daily ritual practice nailed down.

Whatever you saw, treasure it. It’s a compass and an anchor. You can’t get to where you want to go unless you know where you want to go! Know what you’re working towards.


Research and Reach Out



Here comes the part you’ll be grateful for the internet! Now that you’ve got your seeds, it’s time to find out what will help them grow and blossom.

If you’ve decided you have a strong belief in reincarnation, for example, Google it. Find out what religions and traditions out there have a similar belief. Read other beliefs those traditions have and see if any of them resonate with you. You might find answers you didn’t even know you were looking for.

Look up groups in your area and online so you can have others to talk to. Facebook has a whole slew of spiritual groups, from very broad ones to very specific. is a great place to find other like-minded locals to get together with.

Maybe you’ll find that there’s a religion out there that fits you. Or maybe you’ll find a group of like-minded individuals you can help blaze your own paths with. You might decide that you want to go it solo.

Whatever you decide, go for it! You can always change your mind later. This post is called “Finding your Spiritual Path” – not “Find”. It’s going to be a process. Things will shift and change and grow as you do. This can be terrifying, but it can also be super exciting if you let go and move with the current.

Found your path? Have any tips for other readers? Share your story with us in the comments below!

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